Single...so what?

I'm single. I'm not married. I don't have a girlfriend. I'm not currently dating. And you know what? It's no big deal. I used to think it was. I used to worry about it and think about it a lot. But I've realized that it's not a big deal. It's not something that I have to spend all my time worrying about or fretting over.

To most people if you don't have someone, a soul mate, a lover, etc...then you must be alone. In fact just the other day I saw a sign that said "Single? Want happiness?" So many people seem to think that if you're single you're lonely and unhappy. But what if being single doesn't necessarily mean you're alone? What if being single doesn't mean you're unhappy? I don't think it does.

So what if I don't have a girlfriend at this point in my life. That doesn't mean that I'm alone or lonely. When I spend time by myself, I'm not lonely or alone, I'm just choosing to be apart from others at that time. I don't need someone else to make my life complete. I don't need a love in my life to fulfill my life. Another person cannot complete me. Another person cannot fulfill me.

For me to be anything, I must be complete in myself. Only then can I share that complete being with another person. One of the greatest problems I have had in my life is whenever I find myself attracted to a woman I don't ask her out because I assume someone else has already done so and she is already taken. For years I had low self-esteem. I never believed I was good looking enough, smart enough, funny enough or good enough for a woman to be interested in me.

And you know what that was? It was my own delusions of myself that held me back. Once I realized that those feelings were just illusions and delusions, I was able to change the thought patterns that perpetuated them. I am single. But I am not alone. And one day I will not be single.

Getting healthy and strong

I've started working out again. Mainly I'm lifting weights and riding the stationary bike. It feels good to be taking care of myself. My goal is to get down to between 150 and 155 pounds and to build muscle. My current weight is 163 pounds. I've also started paying closer attention to the things I eat. In the past I ate a lot of junk food. Now I'm trying to eat lots of fruits and vegetables and eat less processed, pre-packaged foods.


I have to say, this is also having a result that I didn't expect. I'm feeling more in control of my life. Maybe it's the endorphins that are released from exercise. Or maybe it's the fact that I'm taking an active role in taking care of myself. But I feel a lot better about things. This is something I should have done a long time ago. I don't know why I waited so long to get back into working out regularly. I'd like to look into taking up a martial art. But first I need to decide which one to study.

The idea of getting into shape and getting healthy is exciting. I'm glad I finally decided it was time to take control.

Kung Fu....Panda?

Okay, yes I will confess. I want to go see "Kung Fu Panda". Normally I don't watch the mainstream animated movies. When it comes to animation, I usually watch anime. But I have to say KFP looks like it's going to be pretty funny. It has an amazing all-star cast. I'm not a huge fan of Jack Black, but Jackie Chan and Lucy Liu are two of my favorites. And I enjoy martial arts movies too.

Now when I first heard about KFP I have to admit to being a bit incredulous. I mean, an animated Kung Fu movie with Jack Black as an overweight, lazy panda? Didn't really sound like the kind of movie I'd rush out and see. But the more I read about it the more it looked like something that would be worth the time. And compared to all the overproduced, Hollywood garbage that is being churned out at a regular pace, KFP looks like it will be an enjoyable break from all the other movies.

Don't get me wrong, I also want to see Incredible Hulk. But I don't always want to see a CGI heavy, violent action flick. Sometimes I want something that I can sit back, watch and laugh. Jackie Chan is always guaranteed for a good laugh.

So I think next weekend I'm going to head out to the theater and see Kung Fu Panda. Once I see it I'll post a review.